Motherhood
It is a time of Becoming. It can feel so primal and raw. It is also a time of learning. Learning your baby and meeting this new part of yourself for the first time. Birth is your baby joining us earth side, and it is also a rebirth of sorts for yourself. New parts of you join, other parts fade. All while you learn and explore who you are as a human and who you want to be as a mother - juggling whatever other hats you wear in this life. It can feel like a seamless transition for some, while brutal for others. Renegotiating internally how you see yourself, others, the world around you.
I support women at any stage of motherhood - whether you are a first time mom expecting, second time mom, or beyond. Whether it is fear about who you will be as a mother, anxiety, struggling postpartum, desire to gain regulation skills to aid you in your postpartum period, finding yourself easily frustrated, feeling like your drowning.
I am here to help you feel more deeply rooted in yourself, to live from a place of choice instead of reaction, to tap even further into your intuition.
Birthing Families
Supporting the Whole System.
Helping Mothers prepare for birth, thrive in their 4th trimester, and beyond. Helping Fathers or Partners, birth support person (grandma, friend, etc) process a traumatic birth experience.
Why focus on supporting the whole system?
My training began in treating childhood relational trauma, helping adults unpack their family of origin dynamics and break free from a life of reenactment. To let go of old patterns, regulate their nervous system to begin leading their life vs. surviving through reaction of their reptilian brain (brain stem and cerebellum).
Through this and continued training in EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Parts Work, Deep Brain Reorienting, it all demonstrates the deep and profound role Connection holds in our life. Whether we’re talking attachment patterns, gene expression, ways our brain and bodies adapt to cope with life’s environment. That begins in utero and goes beyond. There is a deep tenderness to the Pregnancy and Postpartum experience, to best support baby is to best support Mom and her support system.
Creating regulation, space, stability within Mom gives greater sense of confidence, peace, and attunement. Sometimes we can feel robbed of that in the Postpartum period due to signs of a Traumatic Birth Experience, Postpartum Anxiety or Depression. As mom physically heals, she is also going through the biggest hormonal shift in the human experience. She needs a support system in this period, though Father or Partner may be struggling themselves as a result of witnessing the traumatic birth or their own family of origin trauma. In trauma, we can disconnect from ourselves and others.
In such a precious time, families deserve to experience a postpartum period and journey of becoming a parent as connected to themselves and each other as they possibly can. Working through that trauma to reestablish connection, safety, stability. Igniting a deep presence within yourself, for you and your baby.
“Becoming a Mother leaves no woman as it found her. It unravels her and rebuilds her. It cracks her open, takes her to her edges. It is both beautiful and brutal, often at the same time” - Nikki McCahon
Within the warm, depth, and nurturing can also be a mom who is struggling underneath. While you ride the wave of hormonal shifts, mixed with sleep deprivation, and navigating becoming a mother for the first time or transitioning from one child to two - there can be an aching, a detachment that can come alive in the quietness of a moment. It feels like there is no time to focus or process your birth experience - you’re now home figuring it all out with a little baby on you.
Because birthing is common, as a society a birth experience is often minimized, overlooked, or normalized. Just because birth is common, doesn’t mean you have to suffer with the impacts of a traumatic birth experience.
In the U.S. 1 in 3 women report having a traumatic birth experience, 1 in 5 women report experiencing some sort of mistreatment in their birthing experience. 75% of mothers struggling with a mental health condition often go untreated - understandably. Whether you are newly post partum in your 4th trimester, fear coming up from a a previous birth as you prepare for an upcoming birth, gave birth years ago - you deserve to be freed from the weight of that experience.
